Isn't It about time we take back control of the youth? Don't be scared! These are kids we are dealing with. The only reason why they seem to be invincible is b/c of you wack parents that let them run wild b/c you don't care, scared, trying to be their friend or any other excuse why your kids will cuss you out in public. Regardless, it takes a village to raise a child, so isn't It about time we bring back/provide the village. Isn't It about time all you elders who fit the wack parent description. Your bad ass kids have normal folk worred about their safety when it come to confronting your bad ass kid about their horrible behavior. Isn't It about time you handle your business when your child comes home complaining how the community whipped their ass for cussing, disrespecting, smoking weed/meth/cigarettes/etc talking back, period, and all the 5 million other ways children disrespect and get away with murder.
I have 3 boys and whuup ass! Don't get your feelings hurt, and call social services! Because the boys, the teachers, all the parents who ask for my help, will explain that no abuse exists. My boys understand why, know I love them and realize that they can do better when I put hands on them. I'm not bragging, and hate the fact that I have to put hands on them, but understand there is a fine line between love and hate with kids. You have to let them know that love and safety exists all the while whuupin ass to make sure they have respect for the community. Stay tuned, cause there's much more in store!
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
Thursday, October 15, 2009
Daddy Stay At Home’s Guide to finding childcare
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When it comes to daycare for your children I believe that my cousin brought up the best point I’ve heard in regards to choosing a childcare giver. One day after she had returned home from work her baby sitter’s car had broken down and had an errand to run. She had asked to borrow my cousin’s car. My cousin, after thinking about all the things that could happen told her she didn’t feel comfortable letting her borrow her car. Light switch! After the sitter left she begin to mill over her descsion and ask herself if she didn’t trust her baby sitter with the car why would she trust the sitter with her child? Long story short she got a new sitter.
I shared that story because when it comes to childcare you need to be able to trust that sitter with your toothbrush and pair of drawers if they ask for it. And if you don’t I believe that you have some serious questions that need to be answered. The purpose of this e-report is to help assist families with one of the most important descsions in their child’s life. When the time comes to make the choice the following steps should be followed cost, research, style of daycare, interviews, trial period and final selection.
Cost
Unfortunately for many of us childcare is a necessity and cost plays a major issue in our final choice. Although the monthly cost has to be considered I challenge you to not use it as the only and deciding factor. Sit down and give some thought to what your family can afford and if you will require financial assistance. After determining our monthly budget my wife and I almost conceded to no childcare at all given our budget. Daycare costs can start as low as $30 a day (usually someone you know at that price) on up into the hundreds of dollars. After reviewing your budget decided what is realistic for you to pay each month.
Style of Daycare
Once you determine the amount you can afford the next step is to decide the style of daycare that is best for you child. There are two types of care available:
Home care: In a private caregivers home.
Day care center: A public building.
There are several pros and cons to each situation. You have to choose what’s going to be most comforting to your child and your piece of mind.
Research
After you determine your budget and style start your research into care providers that meet your criteria. The phone book and Internet will obviously have contact information on the majority of centers in your area. However, I challenge you to dig deeper than that. Ask family, friends, or co-workers if they know of any good care givers. Your network of people should be able to give you some good feedback. Try to create a list of two or more care providers that meet your needs and then conduct visits.
Once you have gone through a trail period and feel that your child will be safe and happy the search is over. Overall, during this process you will want to be open-minded and trust your gut feelings. Pay special attention to your child and how they react and more importantly choose a caregiver that you would trust your car with.
Additional Resources
http://www.childcareresources.org/
http://www.childcareresourcesinc.org/
http://www.workfamilysolutions.com/
When it comes to daycare for your children I believe that my cousin brought up the best point I’ve heard in regards to choosing a childcare giver. One day after she had returned home from work her baby sitter’s car had broken down and had an errand to run. She had asked to borrow my cousin’s car. My cousin, after thinking about all the things that could happen told her she didn’t feel comfortable letting her borrow her car. Light switch! After the sitter left she begin to mill over her descsion and ask herself if she didn’t trust her baby sitter with the car why would she trust the sitter with her child? Long story short she got a new sitter.
I shared that story because when it comes to childcare you need to be able to trust that sitter with your toothbrush and pair of drawers if they ask for it. And if you don’t I believe that you have some serious questions that need to be answered. The purpose of this e-report is to help assist families with one of the most important descsions in their child’s life. When the time comes to make the choice the following steps should be followed cost, research, style of daycare, interviews, trial period and final selection.
Cost
Unfortunately for many of us childcare is a necessity and cost plays a major issue in our final choice. Although the monthly cost has to be considered I challenge you to not use it as the only and deciding factor. Sit down and give some thought to what your family can afford and if you will require financial assistance. After determining our monthly budget my wife and I almost conceded to no childcare at all given our budget. Daycare costs can start as low as $30 a day (usually someone you know at that price) on up into the hundreds of dollars. After reviewing your budget decided what is realistic for you to pay each month.
Style of Daycare
Once you determine the amount you can afford the next step is to decide the style of daycare that is best for you child. There are two types of care available:
Home care: In a private caregivers home.
Day care center: A public building.
There are several pros and cons to each situation. You have to choose what’s going to be most comforting to your child and your piece of mind.
Research
After you determine your budget and style start your research into care providers that meet your criteria. The phone book and Internet will obviously have contact information on the majority of centers in your area. However, I challenge you to dig deeper than that. Ask family, friends, or co-workers if they know of any good care givers. Your network of people should be able to give you some good feedback. Try to create a list of two or more care providers that meet your needs and then conduct visits.
Interviews
The first step of the interview process is to visit each place with your children. When we first arrived at the facility I paid special attention to things such as cleanliness, safety hazards, and how many other children were being cared for. It’s crucial to get a good understanding of the environment and how comfortable your children are. Kids know when someone truly loves being with them. They are your best judges and should be listened to for feedback. If your children are extremely uncomfortable with the person and can’t be persuaded to interact, this could be a good clue to disqualify this center. Also, be aware of the caregiver’s behavior. Does she/he gently try to engage the children or lunge at them, or simply ignore the child? Pay close attention to how your child responds.
Things to consider & Questions to ask
Does the care provider seem to really like children?
How does the care provider interact with the children? Do they get down on their level when they speak to the child?
Are and how are the children greeted when they arrive?
How quickly are the children’s needs met when things get busy?
Are the care providers trained in CPR, first aid, and early childhood education?
Are the caregivers involved in continuing education programs?
How does the caregiver respond to children’s growing interests?
How open is the caregiver to speaking with you about the daily activities, what happened during the day and any other questions you may have?
Are parent’s ideas welcomed and do you have the opportunity to get involved?
What is the staff to child ratio?
How is the atmosphere?
Is there a fenced-in outdoor play area? Is the equipment safe? And how are the children monitored during play times?
How is the space used? Are their separate areas for play, eating, and resting?
Are the activities age appropriate?
Are there enough toys and learning materials for the number of children?
Are the toys clean, safe, and within the reach of the children?
Does their style of discipline match your style?
Do they comfort the child as needed?
Is the caregiver licensed?
Are surprised visits by the parents encouraged?
Will your child be happy spending the day their?
Who will have access to the children? (Especially at home care)
Trial period
Now comes the extremely hard part, being realistic. After all of my visits my wife and I determined that one of us should stay at home until the boys could at the very least communicate any wrong doings. Which brings me to a major point in the process. Letting go of your children and not being too judgmental as no caregiver will be perfect. In my situation we honestly didn’t feel comfortable with the caregivers in our budget. So we decided that one of us would remain at home. However, that also means don’t choose the lesser of all evils either. If none of the caregivers meet your needs start the research process again. With any luck you will be pleased by a couple of your choices.
Once you determine which one does fit your needs perform a background check and give them a one week trial period with your child. Let them know in advanced that you are going to test the waters to see how your child responds. After each day place close attention to how your child’s attitude. Especially for babies that cannot tell you how the day went. Sometime during this trial period stop by for a surprise visit. That way you can see your child in action without your influence.
Once you have gone through a trail period and feel that your child will be safe and happy the search is over. Overall, during this process you will want to be open-minded and trust your gut feelings. Pay special attention to your child and how they react and more importantly choose a caregiver that you would trust your car with.
Additional Resources
http://www.childcareresources.org/
http://www.childcareresourcesinc.org/
http://www.workfamilysolutions.com/
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